When you say you have been together for, let’s say, thirty years, how long have you really had quality time?
Let’s get a bit technical here. With twenty-four hours in a day, take out ten hours for work and eight hours of sleep and that will give you about six hours or about a quarter of the day of the time on the average left.
Put the weekends and holiday on the personal and other “me” time to make calculations easy. So in our computations, you were together for say, roughly seven and a half years (Thirty years multiplied by one-fourth).
So what am I getting at here?
How did you spend the past seven and a half years or six hours in a day together? Was it mostly having a fun time? Was it happy moments? Was it enjoying each other’s company?
Was it full of love, care, and concern for one another? Was it mostly on a positive note? Were they things you look forward to doing again tomorrow? Were they fond memories?
Or was it more on fighting, arguments, jealousy, bickering, controlling, money matters, or mostly negativities?
How to spend Quality Time?
I ask this because time is one of the few gifts we have in this short life we live.
And I had observed that in many cases, people regretted how they have spent their time when is running out. People felt guilty for not having spent quality time enjoying with the ones they love or doing what they really love.
Given a chance, they would live their life differently.
There is great wisdom in that old saying that goes, “Live each day as if it were your last.”
Now going back to our computations, it makes good sense spending quality time with our ten hours of work, using the eight hours getting quality time resting or sleeping but most of all enjoying and savoring quality time the remaining six hours with the people most important to us lovingly, positively, and happily.
Now that is time well spent and in the end, there will be no regrets.
This does not apply just to lovers or married couples, it also holds true be with our families, friends, life companions, officemates, or for any relationships, even with our pets.
Think about it, even though it says you were together for the past thirty years, in reality, you were really not together that long. And in some cases, you were never together at all
So, just enjoy each other’s company with the actual time you have for each other. Make that actual time quality time.
Remember, it is not the length of time you were together but the quality time you spent with one another.
Have a Simple and Better Life.