We’ve all heard about painful, cruel, sacrificing or demanding love but never hurtless love. Well, if we will understand the true definition of love, then those negative adjectives will never really connect to the word love, ever.
You see love, in the true sense of it, is all there is. If you have it, you have everything, the Holy Books promote it, the great masters’ advice it, the movies headlines it, all because it is probably true.
But where lays the problem in the real world? Why are my experiences with love so tragic? Why can’t I find true love? Why do my relationships end badly? Why do I feel lost and bitter in the end? Here are some questions that are asked so endlessly regarding the topic of love.
Love is easier experienced than explained and hurtless love is a non-existing concept to many.
The real concept of love is giving, caring, providing, protecting, and all other outwardly positive gestures that will benefit the person, thing or whatever you love. In other words, love comes from you only and your satisfaction and happiness come from doing that gesture, and that gesture alone. That should be hurt less love.
Now here lies the problem. We were all raised to believe that love is a reciprocating thing, “I love you so you should love me back”. Whether it is romantic, family or friendly relationships, love has become a transactional thing. So technically, it should be called a contract since the concept of love is now out of the picture. There is no hurt less love here since there are expectations and love is by definition not really love.
Hurtless Love for a reason
When giving your love, there must be no expectations, no reciprocation, no ties that bind, no obligation, no whatsoever. In fact, the true essence of love is “willing to kill, be killed and/or to die for the one they love.”
When there is anger, envy, jealousy, fear, or control involved there is no love at all. If you are not happy with a relationship, end it. If you feel you are being abused in the relationship, end it. But if you are not ending a relationship despite experiencing whatever complains you are claiming, that means you like that situation. You may rant all you want, but in retrospect, that may be what you really want, a reason to rant.
Hurt less love should not even be called such because love in itself is hurtless. Never expect people to change or do anything for you because you do not have any control over them, and in the end, you will just end up hurt.
To love is the reward, to be loved back is just a bonus. That is hurtless love.
Have a Simple and Better Life!