I’m sure we’ve all experience getting angry and many of us endure this feeling every day. What’s worse is that most people made anger their normal way of life.
I would say that getting angry once in a while is normal for us being humans. It gets the steam off our system and it is a natural reaction when things don’t turn the way we want them to. Even animals do get angry. But notice that animals get angry only when agitated. Afterwards they turn to their normal self again and move on. Some persons or many people don’t. Anger becomes a baggage.
These people hold grudged deep in the memory banks of their mind and use these as screensavers of their everyday life. The perennially angry person is a sick person. Maybe that’s why they’ve come up with special programs like Anger Management.
What is the root cause of Anger?
The root of anger has always been fear. Fear that things will not turn the way we want them, fear of losing control, fear of losing one’s pride or ego, fear of just about anything. And this fear didn’t happen overnight. When we were just learning to know things as kids, our parents, teachers, friends, society and media instilled this deep our sub-consciousness. And many of us lived it and unfortunately even passed it on.
I am not a doctor but I know anger, like stress and other negative reactions, produces some sort of toxic chemicals in our body that give us high blood pressure and other diseases.
Bosses get angry because they have targets to meet and their subordinates just couldn’t keep up to their expectations. Parents are always angry simply because the kids don’t want to follow them. Drivers are always angry at heavy traffic on the road. All are very understandable. But after years and years of this everyday habit, where do you think will they be? Medically or otherwise.
People get angry not only with people but also with all sorts of things except themselves. Blaming or complaining is a close relative of anger, very close. People get angry at just about any situation and even at Mother Nature.
Let me ask a question: Will you get angry at fire when it burned you house or water when it flooded you kitchen or at bees when they bit you? The same is true with people.
What’s the point of being angry? It’s waste of time and energy. It’s bad for your health. It’s bad for your looks. And it’s not cool.
Many people get angry right after watching the news and some soap opera programs on TV. For me, I don’t really watch the news, I find it always negative. I would rather watch a funny show or some sports program. It makes me feel happy after.
Life is short. Don’t waste time getting angry. Always be happy. It’s a positively wonderful world out there.
Have a Simple and Better Life